Glad you enjoyed to review, and particularly glad that I was able paint the picture a different perspective.
As to your main point, I didn't mean to paint quite as strong a picture as you did with the term absolutely. (Sobbing at my feet, etc.) And I think knowing our kids is probably the best tool we have for finding the dividing line be…
Glad you enjoyed to review, and particularly glad that I was able paint the picture a different perspective.
As to your main point, I didn't mean to paint quite as strong a picture as you did with the term absolutely. (Sobbing at my feet, etc.) And I think knowing our kids is probably the best tool we have for finding the dividing line between the traumatic and the non-traumatic. This is separate from listening to them. Kids are often very bad at predicting what effect something will have on them, which is not to say listening isn't important, but that it's separate and a step down from actually understanding them.
My final point would be, as loving parents we default to shielding them as much as possible, and I think that's the wrong way to go about it, that we should actually default to exposing them to more negative experiences to the point we're both of us are a little bit uncomfortable.
Glad you enjoyed to review, and particularly glad that I was able paint the picture a different perspective.
As to your main point, I didn't mean to paint quite as strong a picture as you did with the term absolutely. (Sobbing at my feet, etc.) And I think knowing our kids is probably the best tool we have for finding the dividing line between the traumatic and the non-traumatic. This is separate from listening to them. Kids are often very bad at predicting what effect something will have on them, which is not to say listening isn't important, but that it's separate and a step down from actually understanding them.
My final point would be, as loving parents we default to shielding them as much as possible, and I think that's the wrong way to go about it, that we should actually default to exposing them to more negative experiences to the point we're both of us are a little bit uncomfortable.
They're tougher than we think.
Yep, agreed entirely.